That's a pretty depressing and fatalistic post title, but I actually mean it in a positive and encouraging way. Let me explain. It's easy to go about your life, every day, feeling like everyone else has their shit together and that the things you struggle with are unique to you. But then, when you get down to it, it turns out that everyone -- every single person I know -- is dealing with profoundly difficult and stressful things. Sometimes that's money, sometimes it's health, sometimes it's work or family or relationships. It's worth remembering this so that we cultivate some empathy when dealing with people -- in general and in particular in difficult situations. For example, with all of the controversy and strife over police brutality and race relations in the US, it's easy for both sides to look at the other and not understand. My personal default stance on all of that is: of course police treat black males unfairly, and black people in the US are so structurally fucked over that it's hard to really comprehend it. I also have a police detective as a future brother-in-law, who sees it from a different perspective. From his, and my sister-in-law's point of view, he does something incredibly dangerous and scary, for the safety of all of us; and further, he's a good person and so are his colleagues. He also sent me this video (graphic) which grounds those sentiments in reality. And of course, he's right. Or take congress. It's poisonous there. I went down to DC last week, and met with two Republican senate staffers, two Democrats, and an independent. Reasonable people, all of them, and I'm sure each with their own struggles. Now, I'm not in the thick of the DC mess, but it seems to me that it's easy to lose sight of that and just fucking hate everyone in the heat of the fight. Or the